These last couple of years of awakening have been anything but easy! When I look at the last 20 years of my life, there seems to be a few themes and experiences that I just keep recycling. Prior to awakening, I just thought I was supposed to experience certain situations and I started to expect and accept it without resistance. Now I truly understand what “same ole same ole“ is and it’s a crock of BS! Now I have a different understanding of who I am, how powerful our thoughts are and that we have the power to change if we are willing to do the work.
We can spend too much time on the status quo and get complacent in behaviors that don’t support our goals. This is often accompanied by accepting lack as the norm in any or all areas of our lives. Trust me.....I get it.... it’s so much easier to just go with the flow because interrupting that requires some type of a change. However, each day we wake up we are renewed and have another opportunity to make a change towards something better. Today that change begins with asking yourself,
“WHAT IS THIS TEACHING ME???”
When we recycle the same experiences, it opens the door for us to understand the lesson that we can learn to overcome these obstacles. Our programming of how we think we are supposed to respond because this is what everyone does or this is how it’s always been, then add a dose of how much our thoughts play a huge part (we‘ll leave that for another blog!) whewwwww it’s exhausting!
This concept of learning the lesson of these cyclical experiences took me some time to grasp. It’s easier to accept things as is, not to change or to just blame an external entity. Hmmm.... who wants to do that forever and ever!!! There is POWER in understanding and healing, so taking the easy route isn’t always the answer. This journey has taught me to completely look at things from a different perspective. When I’m going through situations, I often get the Hanged Man tarot card which has an individual hanging inverted. It allows that person to see their environment or situation from a different angle....different perspective.
Do you want to keep going through the same cycles or are you ready to make a change?
These steps will put you in the right direction➡️
▪️ACKNOWLEDGEMENT
You must be brutally honest with yourself about the situation that keeps occurring and wholeheartedly be ready to stop the cycle. Acknowledgement is a very important step that initiates the path for understanding and healing. An example would be acknowledging that a lack of boundaries results in experiencing the same situations with friends and family. When it results in feeling emotionally drained or stressed out, it’s time for a change.
▪️UNDERSTANDING YOUR ROLE
As the saying goes, “it takes two to tango“! These repetitive cycles don’t just happen on their own and to usher in the change you want to see, you have to take a look at the role you play. What are you saying ”yes” to where you should be saying “no”...... in what ways are you not honoring your desires and needs to appease others....or are you just settling because you don’t believe in the situation improving. In the case of a lack of boundaries, saying “yes” or people-pleasing are very common, but can also be changed. It can be hard to accept your role in things but it is truly freeing and gives you the chance to shift the course of future occurrences.
▪️WHAT IS THIS TEACHING ME
Here it is......one of the most important questions to ask yourself. Now let me forewarn you... you may need to get a shovel because at this point it might require some internal digging to reveal what is really going on.
There are patterns that we learn from childhood and throughout life that become the norm. We then accept those patterns and believe them to be our “modus operandi”. We also believe what we are told by others and start to accept certain erroneous beliefs as our own. It’s not true, those experiences can be changed. Is this teaching you that you need to honor your boundaries so that others will.....are you experiencing financial difficulties repeatedly because you associate high self-worth to how you look which leads to excessive spending....do you agree to work long hours because you have an unhealthy association between being perceived as hard working in relation to likeability? Now it’s time to commit to understanding the underlying issues, heal them and create alternative options to prevent the situation in the future.
▪️MOVING FORWARD
Okay, now it’s time to move the tassel! Congrats you’ve graduated and it’s time to implement your fresh new approach into your daily life. Remember if you want to see the change, you have to be the change! Don‘t believe the hype, “that’s just how I am” or “this is what I’m supposed to go through“! DON’T GO BACK to the familiar, you’ve done the work and there are more levels of healing that need to be unlocked!
What experiences are you recycling?
Feeling stuck in certain situations and don’t know why?
Book a session and we can uncover what’s blocking you!
Steph
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